Questions to Ask Prospective Parents

A thoughtful list of questions to ask potential adoptive parents.

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You may have selected several different couples as possible adoptive parents for your child. How will you narrow your selection? Although some placing parents make a decision after reading a few couples’ profiles, most make a carefully considered decision, making their choice only after many questions and much thought.

Before you contact any prospective adoptive parents for the first time, it’s a good idea to make a list of questions you want to ask to help you get to know each couple. Here are some possible questions, and you should add others you think are important:

  • Why do you want to adopt a baby?
  • Have you adopted before?
  • Do you have any experience with children?
  • What do your families think about you adopting a baby?
  • Will you tell the child that he is adopted? When and how?
  • What will you tell the child about me? About his birth father?
  • Was open adoption your first choice?
  • What are your religious beliefs?
  • What are your beliefs about education?
  • What forms of discipline will you use with the child?
  • Are you willing to maintain contact with me/us as your child grows up?
  • What type of contact?
  • How often?
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