9 Things I Wish I Knew Before Finding My Birth Parents

Reunion might have been easier had I known this stuff first.

Tom Andriola May 05, 2015

As an adoptee, I often wondered as I was growing up who my birth parents were and what the circumstances were surrounding my birth. Was my mother a beautiful movie star? Was my father a famous athlete? Did they tragically have to give me up for adoption for some crazy reason?

Deep down, I knew none of those fantasy scenarios were likely to be true. But I also didn’t know what was. And that made me uncomfortable and insecure. I had control over none of it, mind you. I was just a baby that was born who was placed for adoption. The circumstances were the circumstances. But even so, there are things I wish I knew before I uncovered the truth of my existence.

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Tom Andriola

Tom Andriola advocates for adoptee rights and shares his personal experiences about being adopted and his successful, independent search for both biological parents. To see more of his writing, visit Tom's Facebook page.


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