Adoptive Mom and Birthmom, Friends Through Adoption

A birth mother and the adoptive mother she placed with talk about their relationship.

Jessalynn Speight January 17, 2014

Open adoption can be scary for everyone involved. Your lives are suddenly joined.  Oppenness is a crazy road one must navigate. It requires trust, honesty, and love.

This video goes over the importance of all the elements of open adoption. I love at the beginning the adoptive mom finishes all her sentences. It proves just how close open adoption can make someone.

At first an open adoption is like any new relationship. You are learning how to communicate the most effectively, what makes them happy, what makes them sad, and you are nervous and scared to offend. Over time, if both parties want to make it work, it turns out great for all three parts of the triad.

No relationship is perfect or easy, but in the end it is worth it to work on it.


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Jessalynn Speight

Jessalynn Bills Speight placed for adoption 5.5 years ago. She gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. She placed her in the arms of an incredible family and share a wonderful open adoption. When her birth daughter was 6 months old she started a blog called, 2 years later she got married to a stud muffin. She now has two kids and 2 fur babies. She resides in good ol' Utah. She started hosting retreats for adoptive couples and has now moved on to hosting birth mother retreats as well. She has presented at conferences and taught classes at women's retreats. She recently had an article in Cosmopolitan, was featured on Fox National News, The Kelly File, and several local news channels. She's helped film a documentary about adoption, a video called the Agape Project, and has blogged for many other websites and online magazines. She is an avid foodie and enjoys cooking, traveling, rescuing animals, learning about holistic healing, history, and photography.

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