Although it’s a great thing that adoption is such a popular idea today, here are a few things that ought to be clarified in conversations about adoption.
Often, we think of adoption as a “good deed” or a redistribution of young children away from a set of birth parents that are unable or unwilling to care for their birth children. On the receiving end, in this conception, is a pair of happy, eager parents who are financially secure, emotionally-intelligent and otherwise prepared to care for said children. Anyone, anyone involved in adoptions in any way can tell you that most adoptions don’t happen like this.
So what essential information is missing from this idealized, limited story about adoption?