Want to know all you can about foster parenting? Here are all of Adoption.com’s articles that talk about foster parenting. Enjoy!
“It’s difficult for me to pinpoint exactly when I became interested in being a foster parent. It feels like fostering or adopting was something I always wanted to do. Originally, my life plan was to get married, probably right after college, have a few biological kids, and then start the process of fostering or adopting children. But life didn’t quite work out that way, so I started considering the idea of foster care as a single mom.” I’m A Single Parent. I’m A Foster Parent.
“If you are a foster parent, you know the word ‘reunification’ comes up a lot. As it now stands, there is a federal law that mandates courts and child welfare agencies to work towards reunification with a biological parent upon children entering care. The law gives fifteen out of twenty-two months for efforts to rectify the reason that children entered care and to assure safety once placed back in the home. People often say, “I could never foster because I could not give the children back.” This is a reasonable response, but it is possible to support the reunification process even if you do not want to. Many foster parents do this every day!” How To Support Reunification, Even If You Don’t Want To
“Becoming a foster parent means joining the ranks of conspicuous families. When I first became a foster parent, I thought this meant that I was the “face” of foster care to the world and I must always look good. Now I know that folks who end up involved in foster care are both smart and brave—they won’t be deterred by my rumpled appearance or the meltdown of one of the little ones in my care.” 3 Things That Are Hard About Being a Foster Parent, and How to Deal.
“There are actually about 250,000 children who enter foster care each year. Some for a little while, some for far too long. And each one is a reason why foster care is worth it. Each child is in need of love and fun and a safe place to call home. That thought is what I would go back to when it felt impossible–that as hard as it felt for us as parents, it was nothing compared to what our kids went through.” 7 Reasons Foster Parenting Isn’t Fun (And 4 Reasons Why It’s Still Worth It)
“Outsiders assume you’re either all feel-good, reward-feeling type of people doing charity work resembling babysitting OR they assume you hate your life and the delinquents that walk around in children’s bodies, but can’t “get rid of them” because there is nowhere for them to go. There are so many stigmas surrounding foster care and the valuable children in the system, so many stigmas and statistics making the children you love as your own appear to others as numbers, problematic, and worthless.” To My Friends Who Are Foster Parents
“No one stumbles into being a foster parent. In retrospect, I have to say that my pre-service training was very comprehensive (and surprisingly enjoyable). But there are some lessons I’ve learned the hard way, some really important things that I didn’t learn in my foster care training, but wish I had. Here are my top ten…” 10 Things You Should Have Learned in Foster Care Training (but Didn’t)
Foster Care Today
“If you have a heart for children in care, but foster parenting isn’t possible for you, you can fight for the rights and well-being of the 400,000+ in the U.S. foster care system simply by raising awareness of the state of the foster care system. First learn about where the system falls short. Talk to foster parents, read the stories of former foster children, listen when you hear about foster care on the news, and reach out to your local agencies. Then, use your voice to educate others about what you’ve learned. The children who suffer because of our collective negligence are voiceless. They need us to speak for them.” 7 Ways to Help Kids in Foster Care Without Becoming a Foster Parent
Foster Parents and Foster Adoption
“Know your own family. Assess your individual and family strengths and needs. Build on those strengths. Make sure you know how your own family feels about fostering and incorporate their opinions when assessing your strengths. As we know, it is not just the parents, or even the immediate family, that raises a child. Your parents, children, siblings, and other relatives should be part of your decision to foster.” 12 Adoptive & Fostering Parent Tips
“Foster care and adoption are some of the most incredible experiences families can have. It is humbling, refining, challenging, and completely worth it. The characteristics listed above are just a few to think about when considering foster parenting and adoption. Above all, though, families who choose to walk in love towards children in need are a much-needed resource in our world.” Top 10 Characteristics of Successful Foster and Adoptive Families
“I think I was a little naive about the whole thing,” confesses former foster mother Liana Smith (not her real name). “When we decided to become foster parents my kids were 14 and 16. We had a niece and a nephew that had spent a lot of time in our home–they both came from single-parent families, so they spent a lot of time with us. They liked to be here and we liked to have them. In my mind, that’s what I was thinking foster care would be like–someone wanting to come and spend time with us.” But, she adds, “that’s not necessarily the case.” Liana discovered early on that–while they were providing a child with a safe place and a stable family–that wasn’t necessarily what he wanted. She adds, “He felt like he was torn out of his home–from his family–so he was resentful instead of grateful.” The Realities of Foster Care and Foster Adoption
New Foster Parents
“Most likely, you are here for numbers. Maybe you’ve heard foster parents get paid and you are curious how much. You might be considering becoming a foster parent. Perhaps you have heard of a family “doing foster care for the money” and you want to know what they “make.” Okay, let’s talk about the numbers. The first thing to understand is that foster parents are not actually paid. They do, however, receive reimbursement that is not taxable income. Monthly reimbursement is meant to be given at the beginning of each new month for the previous month.” How Much Do Foster Parents Get Paid?
“I’ve wanted to be a foster parent since I was 12 years old. As I got older, I wondered if I could still be a foster parent even if I didn’t get married, or chose never to have biological children. I did end up getting married, and when my husband and I decided to get our foster care license, we still wondered if our age or decision not to have biological kids first was going to inhibit us from being able to be foster parents.” Who Can Be a Foster Parent?
“With the staggering numbers of children in foster care in our communities, there is always a need for more foster families. Many people consider foster parenting, but often, fear the unknowns of it. The thoughts of “What if we get too attached?” or “What if the child goes back to a bad situation?” seem to steer people away from jumping headfirst into foster parenting. Of course, there are reasons why one should not be a foster parent, and every person needs to decide if foster care is the right thing to do. However, when considering the reasons not to do foster care, perhaps, one should consider the reasons to become a foster parent.” 7 Reasons You Should Become a Foster Parent
“I think the only honest answer to the number of birth family visits your kids will have is, “It depends.” When children come into care, there is usually a court hearing the next day to make a plan for the immediate future. Most often at this point, the plan will be reunification with one or both birth parents. If this is the case, workers will want to build or maintain the bond between the children and their parents, and it is not unusual for visits to happen several times a week (especially if the children are very young). If you take placement of a newborn, you may have visitation three times a week with each parent. Additionally, parents are usually invited to all medical appointments, so if you have a child with many appointments, this could involve extra interaction with birth parents.” Newbie Foster Care Questions: How Often do Kids Have Visits With Their Birth Families?
“Remind yourself that not everyone is going to understand and accept this journey that you are on. This one can be a hard pill to swallow. While you will find support from people, there are others who will never understand why you would put yourself and your family through the potential risks that loving a child, and possibly letting go, will bring. It is important to educate others about your reasoning for foster parenting (because your reasons are vital), but also do not lose heart when your reasons fall of deaf ears. After all, this is your mission for life, not anyone else’s.” Ten Ways to Prepare to be a New Foster Parent