I was hoping you’all could give me some ideas. I've had many, but want to consider any new ideas before making a decision.
Situation: In 1965 I was the product of a one night stand and therefore adopted out. In 2008, the mediator found my birthmother, but she refused contact with me because NO ONE in her family knew she had had me. At the time I was born, she was divorced with 3 children, and I learned she had another child after me.
Well, in 2016, when the State of Colorado released birth certificates to adoptees, I got mine in the mail and did what 90% of us would have done, I Googled my birthmother’s name. Found out she, her first husband, and her current husband have all passed away recently. But I also found my 4 half-siblings (I’m still not sure how I feel about Facebook and it openness!) I guess what I’m really asking is for you to imagine that all of a sudden a person contacts you and they have the proof that your mother kept such a huge secret for so long and you wouldn’t even be able to talk to her about it. As far as I know, they know nothing about me.
Question is two-fold. Do I make contact? If so, do you have any ideas on how to start that message? If not, why shouldn’t I?
sh
I met my half sister when I was 26 and she was 15. I had met my birth father when I was 8, saw him once then and again once when I was 9 and didn't like him at all. I had not seen or spoken to him since. Then I here from this 15 year old that she is my half sister and wants to meet me. She cont...
CP
I think if you would regret not making contact, you should. It's so cliche to say that you'll never know if you don't try. I love what Samantha said above. Be honest and upfront with your intentions, and then it's really just up to them. Good luck! And please let us know what you decide :)
rs
If I had a half-sibling floating around out there that I'd never heard of, I'd want to know about it and meet them! I agree that reaching out in a non-threatening manner - like a letter explaining who you are and why you want to get in contact - and giving your half-siblings some time to process is...
SG
I just found my birth parents. I am 49 yo. I was placed immediately after birth . I sent for my non Id info in 1990. Have looked off an one over the years. Well Saturday night a search angel told me she found someone . I was so excited . I looked thru picture see if anything . Well guess what noth...