I openly welcome questions by individuals in our community of adoption and foster care who ask about my experiences as an international adoptee.
Questions of how those experiences have formed my identity, directed my relationships, and shaped my view of the world around me.
Recently, I was posed three meaningful questions to explore, which I will do in my next three blogposts. The first question is from Oleg Lougheed, international adoptee and founder of Overcoming Odds.
Overcoming Odds is an organization that supports adoptees along the journey of healing and discovering how to use their story for bigger and bolder purpose. It’s been my honor, during the past few months, to speak at two Overcoming Odds events that took place in Los Angeles and San Diego.
Oleg’s question is this:
How have the feelings that you might have experienced as an adoptee (feeling rejection, not worthy of love) impacted your ability to see, trust, and find belonging? How have those impacted your identity?
I have, as an adoptee, dealt with feelings of rejection and an over-arching belief that I was not worthy of love. Rejection can have that type of effect on a person. It strips you of a sense of dignity. It devalues. It shames. As for me, rejection and the abandonment that took place at the hands of my first parents left behind many wounds. Nothing seems safe when the people a child should be able to rely on the most—their parents—turn and walk away. No matter a parent’s reason or circumstance, the rejection—the leaving behind of a child—can cause lingering wounds. Everything—love, trust, relationships, family, friendships, the present, and the future—can seem uncertain in the child’s eyes.
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