Embracing Challenging Conversations About Adoptees

Adoptee Angela Tucker, of The Adopted Life, has put together a thoughtful video about making these discussions all they should be.

Natalie Brenner December 21, 2017
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“Who’s her real mother?”

“Does he ask about his biological dad?”

“Was his real mother on drugs?”

“Why didn’t her parents want her?”

Have you been asked any of these questions? How do you respond? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Annoyed? Excited at the chance to educate others? Do you include your (adopted/foster) children in your response?

Children who were adopted are listening. They can hear the comments and questions about them. How are we centering their well-being? Angela Tucker at Amara  recently released this incredible blog and video, spurring on this incredibly important conversation about how we respond to such questions and comments.

Angela has lived the experience of an adoptee and knows intimately well what it is like to have such personal questions asked about her and her biological family. To hear from her is invaluable, and I am always so excited when Angela releases something new.

Be sure to hop over to Amara’s website to read and watch more about the challenging and intrusive questions adoptive families often face. Angela is building the Post-Adoption Program at Amara and is focusing on centering the children/adoptees voices in all discussions — this is monumental and necessary.

Let’s expand the conversation with families about how we handle these questions in a child-centered way!

Watch the video and let us know: what questions have you and your child received and how have you responded in a child-centered way?

“How (And Why) We Embrace Challenging Conversations About Adoptees” by Angela Tucker.

Watch the video here.

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Natalie Brenner

Natalie Brenner is wife to Loren and mom to two under two, living in Portland, Oregon. She is the best-selling author of This Undeserved Life. She likes her wine red, ice cream served by the pint, and conversations vulnerable. Natalie believes in the impossible and hopes to create safe spaces for every fractured soul. She's addicted to honesty and believes grief is the avenue to wholeness. Natalie is a bookworm, a speaker, and a lover of fall. Connect with her at NatalieBrennerWrites.com and join her email community.


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