Getting your adoptive child to call you mom

I have yet to adopt, so I have no idea what it feels like to be in your shoes. However, your situation reminded me of when my mom remarried when I was 12 after divorcing my father. My "step"dad never asked us to call him dad even though he took on all of the responsiblities that a father has...and more. After about a year, my younger sister was calling him dad. It took me a little longer, but then I called him dad too. I started by referring to him as dad to others. You mentioned your daughters call you "Ms. --- " Maybe you could start by saying that they don't have to say "Ms." They can just call you by your first name. I know that if my "step"dad would have pressured me or even asked me to call him dad, that would have made me feel uncomfortable. I already had one, and I had to ease into calling two people the same name. Like I said, this was just my experience, and is just my opinion. Our situations are completely different. -Stacey