Getting your adoptive child to call you mom

I wanted to add one more thing. My older kids started REFERRING to us as mom and dad before they started calling us that. When their friends would call, they'd say to wait, they have to ask their mom. I think this kind of gave them the beginnings of thinking of us as their parents. Also, once their friends started referring to us as their parents, it started to reinforce to them that OTHERS thought of us as a family. Once your kids start making friends around the house and at school, it may start to open up ways for them to call you mom.