Getting your adoptive child to call you mom

Ms Tee - Your reality is that they are going to be with you for years and years, but to them, they have only past experience to relate too. They are 5 and 10 and most like have had a lot of disruption in their young lives. My advice is to simply work on forming your relationships with them, let them develop trust in you and let them form an attachment to you. I also do not think you should pressure them about what to call you at this point as this could sidetrack them forming trust if you become demanding of them, Your love and devotion to them is there and they will see it over time. Let nature take its course, it will come, but may come slowly. You know you are there Mom and that is what counts right now. Just my opinion.