What i'd say to my birth daughter

November 15, 2004

First i'd tell her what i did was the best thing i could of ever done for her. I did marry her dad, but he beat me all through our marriage and all through my pregancy. I was a scared little girl myself. And i was afraid for you as well. But i loved you sense i found out i was pregant and i have loved you all your life!! I have cried so many tear I carried so much guilt and i know now i didn't have to.

I have children now and they taught me so much . i have learned that if you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow you have no todays to be thankful for.

Today i am thankful for all the love and courage God has given me to begin this search. I want so badly to find you and to know you are doing well. I do know that the couple that adopted you could not have children and i knew that they could give you a better life.I do not , nor would i ever try to take there place. All i want is to know that what i did was the right thing for you. I just need to know that. You have a sister and a brother who would love to meet you. And are very supportive of what i am doing to find you.

They say real courage is when you know your licked before you begin ,but you begin anyway!!

I love you my girl and i hope you too are trying to find me. I have faith God will bring us together.

The mother who gave you life.

Robinsmom

November 16, 2004

Hello,

Your thread has really touched me. I lived a life very simular to yours, the only difference being that I married the birthfather after the adoption. I have since found my birthdaughter, and I hope you find yours too. It is not always easy, and more often than not, you want to give up. I hope you wait it out, so you can feel the peace that knowing you did the right thing brings. It is bad enough to live in an abusive relationship, but the thought of bringing a child into it is unthinkable, we gave them a chance to live a happy life, one without fighting and hitting and fear. You have to be proud of yourself for being brave enough to do that. I know that when you find your child, you will no longer carry that guilt, I know because I carried mine for 28 years, till I found her, and was able to forgive myself. I am happy I found her, but things don't always work out the way you picture them in your head. I will alwyas see her as the child I lost, but she is really a 28 year old woman, who is really a stranger to me. It will take time, to get to know one another, but at least I can get up every morning and know that all my children are safe. That is worth more than I can tell you. Good luck to you.

Colleen

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dixiekat

November 16, 2004

I AM A ADOPTEE AND I WAS VERY TOUCHED BY YOUR THREAD.. I HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR MY BIOLOGICAL FAMILY FOR YEARS NOW... I AM NOW IN THE PROCESS OF FILING WITH THE COURT SYSTEM TO OPEN MY FILES IT HAS TAKEN A LONG TIME FOR THIS TO TAKE PLACE... I HOPE THAT MY PARENTS ARE AS HEART FELT AS YOU....GOOD LUCK AND MANY HOPES THAT YOU FIND YOUR LOVED ONE..

DIXIEKAT

Heath15

November 16, 2004

I too am touched by your reply's. This whole thing has scared me so much ,but i know in my heart that this is what i need to do. I will never stop looking. I too have just hired a CI here in Tucson. She is amazing. I hope and pray that my daughter has been looking for me as well. I put it all in Gods hands and can only hope for the best.

Thanks so much for the supportive reply's. I wish you well in your search . I will pray that you will be reunited with a loving family.

Mother Theresa, once said I know God promised not to give me more than i can handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Thats how i feel.He will see us through this!!!

Good Luck, Brenda

Heath15

November 16, 2004

You are so amazing all of you out there searching or who have been reunited with family.You have that strength to do a search. I am so grateful for this adoption forum. I have read and cried for so many of you as well as for myself. This has got to be such a hard time for all of us. Yet you all try to comfort each other and be very supportive. It is sad that something like this will bring people together. I only wish that everyone could see what i have seen and read here, and we could all reunite as a country !!

Thanks so much for all your support. I pray for all of you in search of the true meaning of love and comitment. Good luck!!

Brenda

les97112

November 16, 2004

I have been looking since i was 18 years old for my birth mother because i have at least two brothers i don't know. Anyway I just wanted to let you know how much this touched my heart. I wish i could hear what my birthmother has to say about what happened. Anyway I hope you all the best in the world.