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im 18, almost 19. i was adopted, have recently been in reunion with my bmom and three half sisters. thats the easy part of the story. i messed up my birth control pills (i never do that, im not careless or anything, it was a complete accident). i had sex with my boyfriend without a condom at least once, but i know it was more than that. and now, im showing some of the symptoms of pregnancy. i realize that it could be stress related, or related to other things, but my boyfriend and i are really scared. i feel like im being led to talk to my bmom about it, just because she's been there, and shes been talking about her pregnancy with me a little bit and..i dont know. anyone have any advice? should i talk to her about it or should i wait until i know for sure?
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How long until you will be able to take a home pregnancy test?
If you are feeling "led to talk to" your bmom about it then maybe there is a reason why. That really is a question only you yourself can answer. Would you feel comfortable discussing this with her? Also would your boyfriend be okay with you talking about this to her? Would your bmom feel compelled to tell your mom about this? Would she be supportive of you? Jus some questions to ponder. :)
I myself would probably just wait only because I wouldn't want to bring undue stress to my mom (not adopted so no *birthmom* to talk to). However it might be good to have that support system there since you and your boyfriend are really worrying about this right now.
Good Luck.
Vanda
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i am supposed to be getting my period in about two weeks. one of the reasons im even more scared is because, if my friend and i calculated it right, i had sex while ovulating. i took to pregnancy tests, but it was way too early.
i think i would feel comfortable talking with her about this, because she was in the exact same position 18 years ago. and i brought it up to my boyfriend and he didnt seem to care. i think he thinks its a good idea, since she knows what im going through, and he wants me not to be worried as much. i dont think she would be compelled to tell my mom..they dont get along horribly well, so i dont think she would, especially if i asked her not to. not until i knew for sure, and then i would tell her. and i think she would be supportive, just because she was in the same position, and vowed to herself that if one of her daughters got stuck in that position, she would help them. she's told me before that if anything ever happens, i could come live with her and her husband. she wont allow any of her girls to give up for adoption (which i completely understand, i wont give up my kids for adoption). sorry this response is so long...
It sounds like your bmom would be very supportive of you during the two week wait before you can test. As does your boyfriend. If you feel comfortable with talking with her than I think that's great! I was able to take a test immediately after I began having suspicions of being pregnant so I never had to endure a long wait.
I don't know how I would have handled that
emotionally. It must seem like the days are dragging along. :(
All I can say is that the more support the better. I don't know how I would be surviving now without the incredible support system that I have.
Keep us posted! My thoughts are with you.
Vanda
I went through the same confusion and fear when my girlfriend got pregnant. Take a pregnancy test and find out. If it comes out positive you can go to the doctor to confirm, but don't expect them to do anything but say the test worked. The important thing to do, if you are pregnant, is to take time to think. People's minds often change drastically once they become rationale and start seeing the positive side of things.
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