Adoption Changes Our Biology

I understand what the person in the video is trying to get across, but I'm rather miffed that this group wasn't more careful with their language, especially given how much distortion this issue seems to get as it is.

Yes, Sitta, I know. I may contact Dr. Siegel directly.

L4R please do... ...the sheer damage that type of mystical thinking can create... will be back to the blank slate theory in no time... ...adoptees don't need to know they were adopted because they are our biological kids now... good grief... D

They wish. This is a variant of the old view of yesteryear, where adoptive parents feel entitled to everything, first parents are scrubbed from the planet, and adopted individuals are expected to live 'as if born to' etc etc. Why can't the child simply be loved for EXACTLY who they are? Why is the ability to change their biology so important to the adoptive parents? Yuk.

Sooooo....my stepmother was really my biological parent too? And my dog? I loved that dog. And my neighbour? She was very important to me - I spent many evenings round at hers after school. What about my teachers at school? They were very influential, I probably spent more conscious time with them than with my parents.This stuff is just mush, aimed at telling aparents what they most want to hear.However, its attempts to minimise, even dismiss, the actual and unique biological connection between an individual and their original family is disgraceful and deceitful.It is entirely self-serving, and yells 'conditional love'.

Sooooo....my stepmother was really my biological parent too? And my dog? I loved that dog. And my neighbour? She was very important to me - I spent many evenings round at hers after school. What about my teachers at school? They were very influential, I probably spent more conscious time with them than with my parents. This stuff is just mush, aimed at telling aparents what they most want to hear. However, its attempts to minimise, even dismiss, the actual and unique biological connection between an individual and their original family is disgraceful and deceitful. It is entirely self-serving, and yells 'conditional love'.

I agree. I hope that doesn't mean my husband is my biological husband, or even worse, biological parent! I have lived with him as family for far longer than anyone else on the planet. If that's what it takes to create a situation where I can feel like a real biological parent, not just an adoptive parent... or to erase my original biological family so my adoptive family can be my most important biological family, on paper and in mind/heart... count me out. I'm in the camp of nature and nurture are equally important in shaping who I am.

I agree (although I would say nurture/environment rather than just nurture by itself) I've said this earlier but to me the most telling word in the sentence as quoted in the original post: was the word THE. It is amazing what the difference the word "the" can make in a sentence. It is similar to the "real" statements - "I am a real parent" compared with "I am the real parent". Sentence one states a stand alone fact - if one is parenting a child, they are a real parent - this is regardless of whether other parents are in the picture or not. Sentence two is making it into more of a competition eg "I am the real parent, not THEM" - it is pitting oneself against another.

My Finger prints CHANGED!??!?!?!? Jk What about dogs and their owners :rolleyes:

This quote came from a so-called professional -"Adoptive parents become the biological #parents through connection. We change their biology." - Dr. Karyn Purvis #adoptionawareness yes adoption awareness indeed, lessons in how to skew and control the adoptee narrative. How disgraceful

This is absolute garbage and untrue. As an adoptee, I take offense to this because not only is it a desire and nothing more but it's degrading to one's lineage. I can also attest that not all of us (and more than you think) did not have happy childhoods. I was abused by my adoptive parents in every way. Both were alcoholics and the adoptive mother is a sociopath. I'm 39 years old and she was so abusive, I was brainwashed by her into my 30s.