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:( Hi,
I went for my physical two weeks ago and my doctor followed the dossier physician's letter sample to the letter, I picked it up...but it is not notarized. She says she will not notarize it as she does not have a notary in her office building and she does not have the time to go to the bank and get it done. She told me that part is my responsibility. She was kind of mean about it too.
I feel SOOOOOO bad bothering everyone for two copies, blue ink, certain wording of the way the notary should have their, "subscribed to and sworn before me"...yada yada yada.
Now what do I do? This is for the dossier. Our homestudy agency accepted her doctor letter as that didn't need to be notarized...but for the dossier it doesn't just need the notary, it needs the certification and authentication as well. Without the notary I am up the creek with no paddle. :(
What to do? Did anyone else face this?
I want to just cry...I am tired and stressed out and worried sick over this whole adoption as it has drained me so. And we already had to go back and redo half of our dossier as we didn't use our FULL names - so now we have everything with our FULL names and not just our middle initials. Now I guess I have to hunt for a new doctor...Wahhhhhhh
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Thanks everyone. What a mess! I appreciate the replies and the board being here as it sure helps to vent.
My agency said to get another doctor! They didn't even tell me about a traveling notary! I will look for a traveling notary. I never knew they existed so thank you a million times! :)
wannahave3: I LOVE this: "I'm just a girl trying to give an orphan a better life. Can you please help me?"
I will DEFINATELY use that one as it is true and it is not as if we WANT to bother these people as we don't...but we have to.
Thanks everyone,
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Before you go through the trouble of finding a new doctor, you should try hiring a traveling notory. They will come with you to your doctor's office, take care of all of the docs that need to be notorized and you will pay her a fee to do this (I think it is generally like $50.00 depending on where you live).
I am so sorry that your doctor can't be a bit more gracious with her time over this matter. I would certainly drop her like a hot potato once you get her signature notorized!
HTH,
We ran into this and worked out a deal with the town clerk. The doctor signed the form, called the town clerk (a notary), I went over, picked up the letters, brought them to the clerk who notarized them. It only worked because it's a small town and everyone knew each other.
I really think the medical forms were the most stressfull part of the adoption!
and... please don't forget to check for spelling, dates, signatures, redible, as you can see i can't spell!
if using initial must sign that way notary and doctor, and get out your name aff and other stuff, childs rights witness and have that traveling notary do them all!!!
and, make sure the stamp is good before they stamp and the doctor doesn't have other ones ready meaning the whole stamp must be read, good ink :)
My husband is a doctor, and I know most hospitals have notaries on staff. Maybe you could meet her at a hosopital she rounds at and have it signed there "at her convenience". Or, you could leave the letter at that hospital and pick it up after she notarizes it.
btw -- if my husband acted like that to his patients, I'd bean him!!!!
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We used a travelling notary as well. She was expensive (about $65.00), and we had to make an appointment. My Dr. even made us pay a co-pay!!! But, it was done in the end.
Mieya's Mom-
I hope you get this straightened out. It's sad that your doctor was "too busy" to help you out.
You need to keep this incident in the back of your mind, and decide someday whether or not you wish to keep this doctor.
good luck-
Kathleen
You can either take your own notary with you OR...write a cover letter for the document saying that it is true and original...then have YOUR signature notarized...We did that for our medical and employment letters and had no problem.
If you need details, let me know and I can e-mail you our sample cover letter.
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Start asking every friend and coworker you have if they know a notary, and you may have to beg or offer a gift certificate to a nice restaurant :) This was very stressful for us too...I ended up asking a friend if by chance she knew a notary, and she did - this woman agreed to come with us on all of our appts. and notarize. If you have an email address book, send a quick email to everyone, explaining what you are trying to do, and could they help?
This is very stressful!! I thought my son's ped. was going to grow devil ears when I asked him to please sign legibly so that his signature could be read....he did it but seemed a bit put off. I have found that you have to be somewhat assertive to get these docs done correctly! Think of the end result - it will be worth it and you'll be fine.
I'm with Kathleen----I would find another doctor. What a witch.
There were people in our process who implied that we were "making up this part" and it's hilarious. I had heard "we've done these forms for other adoptive parents, but this wasn't necessary" whatever.
I hope you replace this obnoxious nasty doctor. There are so many good ones out there that you don't need to get hooked up with someone so mean. In my opinion--the doctor getting it wrong repeatedly (which has happened to many of us) is one thing, but being unwilling to do it right is another.
A very long time ago, someone on this board said that one of their friends became a notary just to notarize all their adoption paperwork. I don't know what is involved in becoming a notary in your state, but it might be worth looking into.
Good luck
our doctor had a notary in the office; our pediatrician for our two bio kids did not, so i used a traveling notary. i just looked up "notaries" in my county online, and got a list, called him, he only charged 5.00 (imagine my disbelief, that included his traveling), and was very pleasant and official. there were many notaries who travel listed, i guess i lucked out with the price by calling him first!!
We had similar trouble. Another option (if you can't find a traveling notary) is to take your medical records to an urgent care clinic. Call first and ask if they have a notary in the office as well as explain your situation. Many of the urgent care clinics do so many employment physicals that they have a notary on staff.
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Also remember that it doesn't necessarily have to be your family doctor - do you have another (nicer?) doctor that you see, maybe a specialist of some kind or your OB/GYN.
wannahave3
I lost 8 lbs. because I was so stressed all the time.
Just wanted to add, Shannon - I wish!! I think I gained 10 lbs. during the paperchase between drowning my frustrations in a bag of potato chips and going out to dinner to celebrate every little step that we got accomplished! :o