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Hi Lacy.. yes.. it is true that it is very expensive to raise a child. Between diapers, food, formula, doctors visits, clothing etc.. it can really add up, then if there is day care add that in too.. That said, there are lots of programs that are there to help with those things if you need them. WIC is even available to pregnant women. Many ladies that decide early to place will move away from the area for the same reasons you state.. there are maternity homes some go to live with friends or family and others go to live with the potential adoptive parents. Again.. lots of options.. if you ever want to speak to an adoptive mom I would be happy to help you in any way I can.. Look at ALL of your options youa re still early in your pregnancy so you have lots of time.. Mandy

hey lucy~ my name is elizabeth, and i'm 10 weeks pregnant. congradulations on your baby. i wish i had this great wealth of knowledge and great advice to give you but i don't. all i have to offer you is somebody to listen and talk to if you need it. i'm 19 and single. i don't know what your exact situation is but always know that you aren't alone.

I am a birthmom and a mother! Yes babies are very expeinsive and they dont seem to get any cheaper as they get older. I moved away from where I was living at the time that I became pregnant with my son. I placed him for adoption. My choice for moving was very much the same as yours I did not want to explain why I had choose to place all though it should have been evident to every one why. It was a good thing I did to cause when I called to tell my ex that I had given birth and my son was in a foster home his room mate got it out of me before I could talk to him and the whole house knew before I could say a word to him and I could hesr this guy in the back ground saying " she cant do that she has no right " My ex had known that I was placing and knew that was what was going to be right ( he did not want the baby anyway ). I was glad I was not there cause that would have just been horrible to have to come home to rest and have people hounding me about why I thought I had any right to place my child with out my ex there or why I had even done it and I knew that was going to be the case and I did not need to deal with that. Anyway sorry for the long windedness but there are places for women to go in situations like ours and if you dont live with mom and dad maybe they will let you come home .. that is who I stayed with and I am still here. It has been a journey and quite a ride but God has helded me in his hands thourgh it .. You can make it.. no matter what you decided you will make it !! If you ever need to talk you can pm me. You are in my thoughts and prayers !! God bless Jess

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Hey,Thanks for the advice. Its a lot to think about still. Love,Lacy