Stealing food

IMHO, I honestly think that this is normal 14 year old kid stuff, nothing to do with being in care. ALL 14 year old boys seek out porn, and the stealing this is probably to see what he can get away with. I never stayed in my room when told to at 14, either, and neither did my brother...unless we were told to spend time with the family, in which case the door was shut tight with a chair shoved against the knob and we stayed locked inside. 14 year olds are generally PITA's, which is why I asked for babies. :-) Good luck with him.