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Stupid me being in no technology land next week. I would have liked to see that Good Morning America!
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I watched this morning. It was extremely brief and I guess I was hoping for more. Ann Fessler mentioned that she'd spent only one day with her own birthmom who is not yet ready to tell others about her. She said her mom hasn't told her other children, either. Didn't the book mention that her mom never had other children?I'm going to check out the NPR link for that interview in a few minutes. Hopefully it will give more details.All this comes on the day that the adoption agency confirmed the identity of my own birthmom. My head is reeling!! :cheer:Sheri
OK, the NPR interview was fantastic and more than made up for the lamo interview on Good Morning America. I spent close to an hour holed up in our family's study listening to it with my dog. My dh and all 3 of my kids popped their heads in the room, but left when they realized it was more of Mom's adoption stuff. I've read the book (it changed my life) and this interview is as close as I'll get to hearing the oral history project. It was well worth the time and I might have to listen again. I encourage everyone, whether you've read the book or not, to check out the program. I will admit, though, it did take a few minutes to get over my impatience with Diane Rehm and how slowly she talks. Sheri
it did take a few minutes to get over my impatience with Diane Rehm and how slowly she talks.
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This is a pretty old topic, but I wanted to reply anyway... One thing that surprised me in the book was a comment made by one of the birthmoms near the beginning. She was the one who'd had her baby scooped, and later got pregnant and had an abortion. She said her abortion was by far easier than her adoption, and that she'd do it again any day but would never have another adoption. This stunned me. How is knowing that your child is dead be easier than not knowing where your child is and how they are doing?
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One thing that surprised me in the book was a comment made by one of the birthmoms near the beginning. She was the one who'd had her baby scooped, and later got pregnant and had an abortion. She said her abortion was by far easier than her adoption, and that she'd do it again any day but would never have another adoption. This stunned me. How is knowing that your child is dead be easier than not knowing where your child is and how they are doing?
One thing that annoys me about the way the "baby scoop" era issue is treated in the media is that these women seem to never be asked, "Do you have any ideas on how you would have managed if you had been allowed to keep your baby?" I imagine at least some of them probably would have guesses at how they could have made it work but the interviewers seem to jump right to the emotional part and not move much beyond the "I could have had my BABY to LOVE!" issue. I don't mean to be insensitive, but it also seems that some of the same media who say to them, "Poor you, you didn't get to raise your baby." are the same ones who say "Poor you, you DID get to raise your baby." to many current young single moms, and of course go into great detail about how hard THEIR life can be, even with the illegitimacy stigma not being a problem today. P.S. I have no problems with a young single mother choosing to have and raise her baby btw, as long as she parents responsibly. I respect her for that if that is her choice, just as much as I would if she chose to let the child be adopted by another family.
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