Advertisements
Hey everyone.....
This is a letter from Sweden..
I really needs some answers from u or some information.
Im in a relationship with an adopted guy. We have been together for 5years. We have a very loving relationship.
The big problem is when we are talking about going more serious like moving in together or getting to start a family, kids.
When we do that he runs away and whants to leave me.
He says im better of with someone else.
What is the PROBLEM???? He loves me, he doesnt want someone else in the hole world he says:earth:
I dont know what to do!!!!!!!!
Can anyone give me som advice... Is he the onlyone who behaves like this???? MIA
Like
Share
It sounds to me like he realizes he has unresolved issues surrounding abandonment, identity, self-esteem--all very common. He runs becasue that way HE is the one running, not YOU abandoning HIM, get it?
Would he consider couples counseling? My DH and I did it for over a year before we were married and it helped tremendously for both of us to deal with our issues (I am adopted, his dad abandoned him as a young teen).
If not counseling, talk to a pastor, priest, trusted friend. Your BF needs help or he will do this the rest of his life.
Advertisements