Open Adoption

Aren't most adoptions these days open to some degree? Our agency only works with couples who are willing to meet at least once yearly with birth parents. I'm finding that our open adoption has enriched our lives in more ways that I could have imagined.

I think these boards have many members who have "closed adoptions" but since the boards are GENERALLY pro open adoption, people don't always talk about it. There's a thread about this somewhere on the boards. I'm fost/adopt so not sure if open adoption will work in my scenario; but, I am open to it.

Bmom here living open adoption for 7 years. :) I think you will find quite a number of our members have some experience with open adoption.

I am foster/adopt as well.... I NEVER thought I would be in an open adoption and I am not exactly sure "how much openness" I will allow... but my boys bio mom relinquished her rights on Friday and asked if I would allow visits in the future....I told her I would in the future, but not sure exactly what time in the future that will happen..However I told her that she can call them every friday and will continue to allow her to do that as long as things remain "pleasant." However, I will only be using the speaker phone. I also plan to give her pics every couple months.... I plan to meet mom face to face (without the boys) the beginning of next month....I told her I would like to meet her..so we can kind of get on the same page and tell her what I am and am not comfortable with and to see what her expectations of visitiation/contact are...So we can both have a clear understanding and there will be less room for hurt feelings... In my case mom DID NOT abuse the kids....It's a long story as to why they were taken..but mom did not hurt the kids....She loves them very much..she just can't seem to get her life together long enough to get them back.....and we were headed for TPR anyway..already had the trial date set...but she decided not to fight it.....Dad is expected to relinquish tomorrow...if not we will go to trial July 18th.... I'm not sure if dad has ever seen the youngest...but my understanding is he doesn't really have much of a relationship with either of them and he is in prison right now and I WON'T be taking my babies to any prison to visit him....... My oldest use to live with grandparents .... not sure how much if any contact at all I will be allowing them....