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My sweet little boy, who's almost 2 has become very agressive with other children. When they have something that he wants, he pushing, pulls little girls hair and even hits young children on the top of the head. Any advise??????????
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when Meg is playing with kids and two of them want the same thing, I try to show the concept of "swapping". No two year old in her right mind would let a friend take a toy and not get something in return, right?
So if Meg makes noise that she wants what someone else has got, I have her bring something over to the person to see if they want to swap. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they don't, but really, sometimes they do and life is good!
Ditto the teaching to "swap." Nick has responded well to this idea over the past month. Of course, this also involves the other child being willing to swap back but you hit it as you go!As for the hitting, we hold his hands after he hits and talk about being easy/gentle, not hitting and giving hugs. He LOVES to give hugs so this is usually met with a ginormous hug from Nick. Sometimes we have to remove him from the situation for a few minutes to calm down but then he's normally okay and has forgotten about the toy by then anyway! Ah, kids.
We've always used the words, "gentle touch", and show them what that means, whether it's a person, your sister, or the cat. I work with my kids at using words, and feed the language into them. We trade rather than share, and when one of my 2 year olds really wants something she goes and gets something to trade ith her sister. So... I have had to teach the other to say, "No, Thank-you and let her know she doesn't alway have to reliquish a toy to her sister.
The process is slow, but we really see the results as they are getting older. My kids seem to play well with others and know how to play together rather than take toys.
Well, it's nice to know that there are other parents out there experiencing this. My son will be three next month, but just around age 2 he started the hitting/punching/slapping thing too. I would just take his hands, get down on my knee and tell him "be nice" or "gentle". And I would explain to him that it hurts people when u hit and that it's not nice. I also tell him (because he'd hit me) that mommy doesn't hit him, so he can't hit her. He seems to have picked it up now and has since pretty much moved passed it. Maybe it's the age, and the whole pushing limits thing. Who knows. Good Luck!!!
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My little guy just turned 2 in July. He is heavily into pulling hair and hitting. When I catch him hitting I take his little hand in mine, gently restraining it and tell him in a serious voice "Adam, don't hit" a few times. When he gets out of hand, I put him in time-out.It is so frustrating, though.. HOWEVER, as his ability to speak/communicate improves, the hitting seems to decrease..