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We are hoping to reach an openness agreement with pixie's parents... and soon so they don't have to be involuntarily TPR'd. Our thoughts are: Quarterly photos and updates until age 2 and twice a year after that. Visits, we hope once a year, but we're willing to consider more when she is younger. We would prefer not to put anything about the face-to-face visits in writing. What do we say about boundaries as far as what is or is not appropriate to say in letters (from them) and/or the boundaries at visits (we already plan to say, obviously, they cannot be under the influence of any drugs or alcohol) How do we address mental illness concerns? Thanks.
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hi,we adopted our son in july.his bmom voluntary relinquished right before court for tpr.we just recentlt wrote a letter spelling out boundaries for contact and visits.our adoption social worker,was very impressed ,with it,said it should be a model for others.so if you like ,send me your email address in a private message and i can email it to you.if nothing else it will give you some ideas.it is important to set the boundaries as soon as possible.
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Boundaries: How bmom will refer to herself and to you; who else, if anyone, is allowed to be present; where the visits will take place (your/her home, a neutral location, etc); how the visits are to be arranged (is she obligated to contact you to schedule, or do you have to try to track her down); if substance abuse or mental illness are issues, that the visit will end if she is under the influence or presenting with symptoms which you feel your child may find upsetting. You may not want the frequency of the visits set in stone, but definitely the terms, even if you just sit her down and review them.Good luck!
Hello,May I ask how do you approach the parents about an open adoption to avoid TPR? I wanted an open adoption. When I asked could an open adoption that place, the adoption worker said that the judge ordered TPR. He said it is usually discussed at pretrial but not in this case. I have meet both parents over the past year. Any advice? Thanks!