is this normal

December 19, 2007

Right now i have no children i will be adopting my first is it normal to feel like i am feeling. I am super excited but super nervous too. I am excited to finally have a child of my own but on the other hand I am wondering if I will be a good mother. I run a daycare and everyone who trusts me with their children says I will be but I still feel nervous.

Also well it is hard to explain. I sort of feel as though when he is mine he will be mine but I still feel as though I will be faking it. Like because I never gave birth I cannot really be a mother. I know just because you can have kids does not mean you are a good parent but I feel as though it is sort of like a right of passage. I know a lady we gave an adoption shower too I am wondering when all is said and done if that would help. I dont know I am very confused and very excited. And I am scared too although everyone seems to think that I am not. I just need to let the emotions settle I guess.

atouchofheaven

December 19, 2007

i remember feeling this way too. when i first got my son in my home, i didn't feel like a "real" mom. because it happened so fast. one day he wasn't there, the next day he was. i remember telling people that i felt like i was faking being a mom. or like someone would come pick him up any minute now and take him to his real mom. it was very surreal. but i just kept acting like his mom even if it felt like i was pretending until eventually those feelings went away.

now i feel like he's been my son forever and no one else's, even though he's had 3 mommies so far. i don't feel weird about it anymore at all. it feels very natural and i can't imagine not being his mom.

don't worry, we all go through weird feelings like this. it's normal. just know that you are his mother and just keep telling yourself that. eventually it will just feel right. and even better, your son will know it too!