Adopting a family friend's baby

I am adopting a friend's grand baby. I have not had problems with the family but I have had to deal with bmom's fear that it wouldn't be a true open adoption. I have had him since he was born in Dec 2003 but I just got the papers for the adoption signed in July 2007. Now I am just waiting for finalization. Maybe you can find ways to reassure them you want them to be part of the child's life. It took a long time for me and bmom to find the happy place where we are both comfortable even though I have known her for over 10 years. Sometimes people are just afraid of change. Although she lives in another state we make the trip once a year for a family visit. His older hald brother even spent the summer with us. just hang in there if it is ment to be God will help you find a way.