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My Husband And I Are Adopting Through The State Of Oklhaoma (dhs). We Have Been Officially Waiting For One Month. Can Anyone Tell Me The Average Wait Time Or Can Anyone Share Their Story With Me. We Aren't Doing Foster To Adopt. We Are Just Going Straight For Adoption. We Want A Little One 3 Years Old Or Younger.
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Hi there! My DH and I have been going thru DHS for 2 years, we were officially (meaning completely HS approved and started being presented at staffing) waiting starting in October of 2006. We are open to just about everything all the way up to sib groups and children up to 10. Since you are wanting a child so young you will be up for a very long wait (not to sound negative), I know when we applied with DHS we were told straight out and it was also in the paperwork if we wanted to adopt a child under the age of 4 (I think, but it might have been 2, it has been close to 2 years lol) that we would be turned down and given information on private domestic adoption. I completely understand why you want to do straight adoptoin, we are the same way, at least until we adopt our first child. I can also tell you that you must stay on top of your worker, be prepared for them to sign you up for children not in your age range, situations, etc, that do it just in case you change your mind. There is more I can tell you but I'm in a rush. Please don't hesitate to pm me, if I can help you anymore. There will be lots you need to know once you get matched. We have been thru one matching process on a sibling group we had to turn down do to extreme issues we weren't capable of handling. There are certain things you need to ask and look for. Anyway holler if you need/want.
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Lulu, I don't know if you'd qualify, but you might also want to check w/ some of the tribal agencies if either you or your spouse have a CDIB card. I think some of them are anxious to find parents that are qualified to take kids under ICWA. I admit that I don't know too much about that process, but I understand from work I've done at our agency that there's often a shortage of parents qualified to take placement of Indian children. Oklahoma has a state law that mirrors the federal Indian Child Welfare Act, it applies to both voluntary (where parents make an adoption plan) and involuntary (where children are removed from a home) placements. Might be worth checking into and might shorten your wait.