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My daughter has 3 biosibs, they are all seperated. One we will not be able to see, he lives out of state.There are 2 biosibs in our city, adopted. We had a visit with a biosib yesterday. I have met the mother and feel safe and comfortable with her. It was hard on the children when it came time to leave. My daughter wanted her sibling to come home with us. Does it get easier as contact is more and they don't have to worry that they won't see each other? This biosib is older and has many personal issues to work on. My thinking is it will be better for them to know each other as they grow up. There is another biosib but the adopted mom is allowing extended family to have much contact and they were part of the abuse and they deny it all. So, we don't feel safe having visits with that sib. What do you all think is best?Biomom is deceased, biodad lives in another state and has a criminal history and never had a relationship with our daughter, so we don't want to go that route plus they would never respect our roles as parents to our daughter. It's so hard to know what to do and at the same time protect my family. Any experiences are appreciated.
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It is hard when it is time to say goodbye but over the years it has gotten easier. It also helps to for them to know there will be another one and it won't take as long between them. I suggest developing a schedule of sorts and allow supervised phone contact. The phone alone saved one of my dd's sanity, I swear. She had gotten so anxious all the time and bedtime had become a nightmare until we gave her Mother and sisters a cell phone. She called frequently for a few weeks and now it has died down a bit. The best thing is the anxiety is gone, she knows she will be able to call them and hear they are safe so the NEED to do so is gone.
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It is hard when it is time to say goodbye but over the years it has gotten easier. It also helps to for them to know there will be another one and it won't take as long between them. I suggest developing a schedule of sorts and allow supervised phone contact. The phone alone saved one of my dd's sanity, I swear. She had gotten so anxious all the time and bedtime had become a nightmare until we gave her Mother and sisters a cell phone. She called frequently for a few weeks and now it has died down a bit. The best thing is the anxiety is gone, she knows she will be able to call them and hear they are safe so the NEED to do so is gone.