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You are me...10 years ago, though I am older. If someone had told me 10 years ago that I would have 10 sons, I would have told them they are out of their mind! So much has happened in 10 years, more than I could have possibly dreamed. I read the other posts and agree with them. There are many things you have to prepare for. 1. Be prepared for your family to desert you, if things get tough. They will say "I told you so". 2. Be prepared for a change of friends, especially your single ones. They won't be able to relate as well. 3. Be financially stable. Your employer must be in agreement, as your availability will change. 4. Develop relationships with doctors, dentists, specialists, and schools that will support you. 5. Read....but make intelligent decisions about what you read. Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one. 6. Spend time getting to know yourself. Know what you can handle and set appropriate boundries for the type of child you are looking for. 7. Plan on scheduling "alone" time after you get your child. 8. Make sure you have an "exit" plan. 9. Visit the "special needs" board here at a.com. 10. Talk to others that have BTDT. These are the things that come to mind quickly. Feel free to PM me. I wish you the best in your journey.
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Hello all,My name is Tracy O'Neill, and I'm writing an article about single men adopting children for Virginia Quarterly Review. If anyone would be willing to share their story with me, I hope you'll consider sending me an email at to2284@columbia.edu. To tell you a little more about myself, I'm a freelance writer who has contributed to RollingStone.com, TheAtlantic.com, and the NewYorker.com. I've also written a novel called The Hopeful, which is about an adopted young woman and which was reviewed on Adoption.com:http://adoption.com/book-review-the-hopeful I look forward to hearing from you and learning from you.Best,Tracy