11 years old, peeing in his pants..

I went to a training last week that really emphasized giving children age appropriate choices and how well they worked in getting things accomplished as well as making a child feel like the actually have some control over their life as well as teaching them to take responsibility for themselves and to realized that in life there are choices and there are consequences, the choice they make will determine the outcome. I truly believe this works and noticed quite a few people touch on it through previous posts on this thread. Some of the examples are things like "If you CHOOSE to fight in the car, you CHOOSE to give up TV time for the rest of the day", "If you CHOOSE to leave your Pajama's on the bathroom floor, you are CHOOSING not to watch TV today (or whatever else they love to do)", "If you CHOOSE not to eat dinner, then your CHOOSING not to eat desert",....."If you CHOOSE not to shower properly at the designated time, you are CHOOSING not to (insert whatever thing he really enjoys doing here).