11 years old, peeing in his pants..

we've just had experience with our 17 fs not showering without being reminded, not brushing teeth...we just took his tv until he could remember to do it on his own. he valued that the most, so that's what he lost. he also lied so we would have to check his toothbrush for wetness, make sure he took his toothbrush to the bathroom, his bathtowels were damp, etc. i don't know what to tell you about the peeing, though