Defacto Parent Status

July 28, 2008

ms_mckenna

OK so my qustion and I do not mean to thread jack but with the defacto parent status they gave you that even with bio moms rights not being terminated? I ask because I have had this discussion ith my case manager way to many times and she said that you cannot become defacto until TPR has happened. Course she rarely deals with kids who want to be adopted etc. So I am not sure how right she is lol.

TPR was not done when I got Defacto status in CA. The "rules" were that I had to have acted as a parental figure for a considerable amount of time. When I applied for it my son had been my foster son for about 5 or 6 months and the SW's attorney said that wasn't long enough (they were the ONLY ones that contested Bmom's people didn't even contest it). The judge said that because my son was special needs she was sure that the amount of time I was his parent should be counted as much longer....