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I loved this response so much! And I realize I'm writing 11 years later but I feel such a connection. What a perfect reminder to do what moms do. I never had any other children so I'm just learning 'what moms do'. I was recently reunited with my 48 year old son, I am 66.
As birth mothers we know what happened, logically.
But on reunion you see what happened. Any emotions you may have surpressed come up. I found keeping a jounal helped me get out the feelings emotions, thoughts, loss, hurt, anger.
Write, cry, scream what ever you need to do. It may seem silly, or selfish, but it is something you need to do.
These emotions need to go somewhere. The more I worte the more I remembered, and it all hurt. But it helped.
We have been reunited for 11 years. My son just flew back to CA to day after a 4 day visit. My youngest raised son said, Mom next time he comes cook, he wants you to cook.
Cooking is what moms do for their children, my son the adoptee is 44. But he wants me to do the mom things for him that I didn't do when he was little.
So next visit, I will cook.
I am 60.
Hugs for you