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Please remember This is a public site, open to anyone!
Including Trolls.
It is unfortunate that we, from time to time, have to deal with people who enjoy preying on the emotions of others. Adoption is a very emotional topic and some people, for whatever reason, love the attention that posting here gets them. They will act out their games and intertwine all of you in their web of lies, even befriending you ֖ causing you to become angry at us, when weve finally had enough and banished them from further participation on the site.
The bottom line҅at any given time, there is likely to be someone here who is being dishonestbut beyond that, we know from time to time, we have people here who are flat-out falsifying who they are, what they are and why theyŒre here. They weave their web and the inconsistencies start to flow. Were not blind to these people҅we often know who they are fairly early onand itŒs usually the same people over and over again.
This is an equal opportunity scam.
We have someone who pretends to be an adoptive parent.
We have someone who pretends to be an adopted adult.
We have someone who pretends to be a birth mother.
We have someone who pretends to be pregnant and placing.
The bottom line iseveryone is their target. They target the entire community. Please, use caution when dealing with people you meet on the internet. ItŒs fine to befriend someone, but understandthe internet offers a mask of anonymity, so be careful.
NEVER send money to anyone. Ever.
NEVER give out your contact information, unless youŒre prepared to deal with someone who has less than above board motivations.
If you think that someone might not be who they say they are, please feel free to email or PM Crick or I.
Most of the time, these people outђ themselves by making critical mistakesand weŒre watching for them. Just be careful out there
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Cas, the really big red flag that I filed away in my brain when Tazer first joined up wasn't the new baby. It was something else, but I'm not going to go into it because it probably wouldn't be politically correct. Also, I don't want to warn her about what signals she shouldn't use in her next incarnation.
The weird thing about Tracy, or Tazer, is that I sensed she does genuinely care about you and Jenna. Just because she's a troll, doesn't mean that she doesn't really care about people she befriends. I don't understand it all...I know that Brandy says the agenda is usually emotional manipulation. But I think that along the way, Tazer probably did really feel like she was helping you, if that makes any sense. I don't think she's an evil person at all, just a little mixed up and maybe needing some friends. It's so sad....
I'm am so glad to hear about the turn of events with your daughter. I have a good feeling about the future for the both of you. It's going to be a lot of work, kiddo. But believe me, it will be worth it for both of you. :loveyou:
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Brockster, I do feel sad for her. I don't think any of us know what connection, if any, she has to the adoption triad. But I have a gut-level feeling that she does indeed belong to one the triad positions.
I've had a couple friends in my lifetime who were pathological liars. They weren't bad people at all, just people who wanted to fit in with the rest of us. I think they just didn't feel like they had much to offer if they were truly themselves. I feel bad for people who don't think others would like them if they were just themselves. It's all so darn sad....
It would be nice if MissyM or Tazer would just join up as herself, with her true story. I think she'd find out that she doesn't have to make things up in order to be loved and supported....
Exactly Raven!!!!!!!! Heck, why get support on something that isn't even true. There's enough true things in our lives that we NEED support. And obviously, if she has a need to lie, she has a need that needs to be supported, and I am not talking about the lying, but the root of the problem.
I absolutely agree with you, Brock. I'm hoping that she'll read these posts, and then look deep inside herself. She obviously needs some friends, love, and support. Otherwise, why waste her time posting and interacting with other forum members here? I hope she realizes it's okay to ask for love, support, and kindness as herself, not another incarnation of a troll. She doesn't have to fake anything ~ we'll listen to her, even if she thinks her real self is boring or not good enough...
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Cas,And that's why I worried about you right off when I saw yesterday that Tazer was a troll. I know you must feel terribly betrayed, hurt, and angry. I know I would feel all those things if I had been in your shoes. I am so sorry this happened to you, because I do understand how vulnerable all of us are when we first join up here on the forums. I mean, you put yourself out there on the line, you put your deepest feelings and fears out there in words...and that takes a certain amount of trust.
I think it's really, really important for you to stay here, to keep posting, Casandra. I know it probably feels hard to trust any of us after this experience, but give us a little time. I'm so sorry this happened...
However it is despicable to manipulate someones emotions with such a deep wound.
OMG you are right! Jennasmom I'm so sorry I DID get you two confused!
So when I heard she was a troll I thought "where did she get such a realistic conversation from!" and that if she made it up it was just so scary because it seemed so realistic :)
I'm sorry! She def. did makeup some similarities to your story!!!! I know you're not a troll!!!!!
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