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Please pardon me if this topic is in the wrong section.
My niece is about to lose her apartment because she cannot pay her rent for January. Are there any charity organizations who might be willing to hear/help her?
If you've my other post about her (help with birthmother in the relative adoption section), then you already know that her motives are questionable. But she looked me in the eyes and said that once she passes the Certified Nursing Assistant's state exam that she will be able to pay her bills and keep her place. Either she's an extraordinarily good manipulator, or she's telling me the truth. I believe her.
If the testing dates hadn't gotten screwed up then she could very well have her CNA and a job right now...but I don't know that for certain.
The economy stinks and she's had a difficult time finding a job, though we've had to stand over her to even apply for most of those jobs.
She's written letters to nursing homes stating that she is willing to volunteer until her CNA certification, so that has to mean something, right?
*is so sad*
This wasn't how it was to be. Anna (niece) told us that she wanted to get out of welfare and depending on other people. She didn't want to be homeless. She wanted her own place, her own career, and to be a better mom to her girls than her mom. Yet that's not what's happening. But she looked me in my eyes and told me...what I wanted to hear? She knows I can't pay her rent. We can barely afford our own. Now that we have our adopted son--Anna is birthmom--our focus has to be on our immediate family.
But I can't leave Anna out. I've been told I don't need to feel an obligation to her, especially because of everything we've done for her since April, and it is a lot. But it isn't anything I wouldn't have done for any family member. But she's supposed to have her career, her driver's license, a car, her GED...and what she doesn't have she's going to lose.
How can I not feel so very sad? My husband and I will not take her back in because we feel that would be hurting her cause to become self-reliant. If she can't pay her rent, she has to go to a women's shelter. It's not that bad, actually. I know so because I used to volunteer there and I was a board member for a couple of years. This shelter houses women and their children, provides education/transportation, and tried to get the women to become self-sustaining. Maybe they can do what we could not?
But we worked so hard for her to have her place just a mile from us. It's the first home her girls have known as their own. My heart breaks for them.
I know all about tough love, and I can do it..but it hurts so much. If Anna really wants to be self-sustaining and get out of the welfare mentality then she's got to make those moves. But she looked me in my eyes and said she'd pass that CNA test and be able to become the woman she'd always wanted to be.
So I can't ignore that. If anyone knows of any charitable sources who are willing to help Anna for her rent for the month of January, then please tell me.
And likewise, if I'm blinded by my own deep, deep gratitude for my son--thanks to her placing him with us--then let me know that, too. My heart aches.
Nalansor.
Have your niece call the Salvation Army. They have emergency assistance programs that will help her out financially on a temporary basis. A lot of times, they'll pay rent, utilities, and groceries for two or three months. It wouldn't hurt to check.
Also, make sure she is on food stamps and avails herself of the local food bank.
Good luck, hon. It sounds like you have your hands full.
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If your area has United Way, try giving them a call.
I had a friend that couldn't make rent when her boyfriend walked out on her right before it was due.
She called our local United Way. They connected her with an organization that had anonymous donations for emergencies. They paid her rent and heat bill for the following month.
Just another idea! Good luck and I wish her well.
Thanks for the suggestions. I've contacted the local United Way, and they said they can help her when she has an eviction notice. Why in the world would she need to have an eviction notice? That's a pain in the patoot for the landlord, and he's trying to work with us.
Still, I feel a bit more hopeful.
Thank you again.