To birthmoms from a man - why is it painful to give up your baby for adoption?

Not much surprises me anymore on the forums, but I have to admit that your thread has floored me. On the chance that you're serious, I'd rate relinquishing my baby for adoption as number one on your list of stressful/painful situations...and I've experienced all the situations you've listed. Placing your child for adoption so he or she will have a better life than you can provide is vastly different than giving your pets away. If you sincerely want to educate yourself on what birthmoms go through when they place their infants for adoption, you should take a look at the many, many threads in the Birth Parents' forums.