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:grr::grr::grr: Several months ago, we decided to start the process to transfer from county to agency and since we have 3 fk, I asked the cw about the likelihood of them being able to transfer with us. She told me it would likely be fine, but would get back to me. Later, she said she talked to the supervisor and got the okay.So we started the paperwork. TODAY, we finally got officially switched to the agency. An intake worker from that agency called our DCS to get the paperwork on the kids and was told that they knew nothing about us transferring. The sickening thing is, the cw we had been dealing with quit her job last week and we got a new cw with a reputation for being a jerk (for lack of a better term).The supervisor DOES know and is lying for some reason. Also the licensing worker at DCS says she didn't know we wanted to transfer the kids with us... what did she think we planned to do with the kids we've had for over 15 months???Those three ladies from our DCS and the intake worker from the agency will be on a conference call in the morning to decide what to do about the kids. We are not transferring back to the county. But I will be sick if the DCS plays their "stupid" card and pulls the kids out of our home at this stage in the game.#1, At least 2 of the three absolutely did know about the transfer.#2, We are in the process of TPR. Why move the kids now??#3, The kids have been with us for over 15 months. The youngest of the kids was only 8 months when they came, so we're the only family he's ever known.I'm so mad and frustrated I don't know what to do. Why do some people have to be so hard to deal with??:hissy:I really want to scream right now. One side of me says, they are foster kids and were dealt a bad hand in life. If they have to move to a new home, they'll eventually adjust and we will too.The other side of me screams NO! The baby will be completely confused and wonder what became of us (me). He will simply not understand why we aren't coming back. The older two are attention seekers and will love moving, since they'll get a lot more attention at first. But the baby won't understand at all. My heart breaks for him. If we're in this "business" for the kids, I can't possibly NOT care what happens to them.I need someone to talk me down right now. This just threw me for a big loop.
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I am so sorry to hear this. Hopefully they will see what damage it will do to move them and make the right decision and not do what is easiest for the agency but right for the children.
Are you adopting them? If you are I would think that they could not move them if that was the case.
I hope that everything works out for you but please keep us posted as to what happens...
No we're not planning to adopt, but our friends are. I'm afraid this will sabotage those plans too. Our friends can't take them now either, because TPR isn't complete and they're with the same agency we transferred to. The county wants the kids to remain in a county home.Hoping for a good outcome tomorrow.
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Fannene
Our foster boys started in Elkhart county and the case was transfered to St Joe county and the boys stayed with us through the transfer. Now that was just going from county to county not county to agency.
Naca~Yes, I had one email to prove that I did have a conversation with them about it but the rest of the conversations were verbal, unfortunately.I didn't know either how it worked when transferring from county to agency, which is the reason I had asked before we ever got started. I knew they'd be paying a lot more for services. But they had said it wouldn't be a problem. GOOD NEWS! I just heard how the conference call went this morning and am so relieved to find out that the kids can stay with us and will be transferred to the agency with us!
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