Just found out that I have a half-sister out there somewhere........

Dear Shocked, Hi. I am Janey. It's been 32 years now since I left the courthouse and walked away. Only in the last year have I begun to touch on what the others have spoken of here; the pain of the Closed Era and its message of "forget and go on" and "your children will never need to know you, don't ever expect them back at your door". It is difficult to describe to another human being how deeply that message effected those of us who heard it; who lived through the pain and denial behind it. From my experience only, I would venture to guess that your mom is being bombarded - as Dickons so brilliantly said - by the past; every nuance, every emotion, every detail is likely flying at her at a mile a minute. Give her time to process. Give yourself time as well. This stuff is not easy in any way, form or fashion and everyone involved needs to be kind to themselves now. Hugs to you and keep posting to us, okay? :grouphug: