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Hi Shocked, I am in the same situation as you are although I found out 10 years ago that I have a half sister. I am from NZ and moved to Australia to be closer to my sister as I wanted to be close with her. I want some help as well as there dosn't seem to be much out there for the non-adoptee siblings. Although I love my sister and my beautiful 3 nieces and wouldn't change it for the world, it dosn't make it any easier (and I don't blame her at all). I now have to share my sister with my mum, and I have a lot of jealousy towards her. It is at the point where it is getting worse and I am actually going to counselling for the first time in 2 days to help me work through things. I have huge empathy for people who have been adopted and going through the whole process of finding their family but I also feel for the siblings they find. I'm not saying I wouldnt change what happened, I just wish it were easier to accept. I don't want to upset anyone and I am glad I have found this forum to help myself and also help other people through the same situation. I had mixed emotions when I found out and was so happy to meet her, this is why I moved closer. But now I feel as though I am the one doing all of the trying and I am being made feel like it is my fault. I have tried to talk to her but she gets upset and says she wish she never upset me by finding me. How do I deal with a comment like that, I never said I didn't want her in my life as she found me and I love that, I am not a bad person and just want her to visit me like I aways visit her etc.... I won't go on but I would love some support just like you Shocked. Lots of love to everyone out there in the adoption circle. :)
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