S/O Is the Duggars religion anti-adoption?

I just recently watched an episode of the Duggars and they were in El Salvador working in orphanages for 2 weeks and it's my understanding they do this every year. The dad said, He could see some of his children adopting some day.So I don't think the family is anti-adoption. It even showed the older girls crying having to leave those precious children.

As a single mom by choice with no known fertility issues, adoption was my first choice. Even if I'd married prior to making the decision to become a mom I had plans to lobby hard for adoption. I have absolutely no desire to become pregnant... ever. I hadn't ever heard of the SMC website and took a glance. From what I gather those stats are based on their paid membership roster. I can't imagine those numbers accurately reflect the general pop of single mothers by choice, just simply the stats of folks who found their website and agreed to pay an annual fee. Based on a study of 1 (myself) I know of 2 gay women (not partners) that are considering both adoption and sperm donation. Not sure what they've decided on... I was only able to give them info on single parent adoption. I know of 3 single heterosexual women who choose adoption first and I've been approach by 1 heterosexual woman seeking more info on single parent adoption and sperm donation never came up. I had one heterosexual female co-worker approach me on single parent adoption and sperm donation did come up. Those are my stats.

I am a single woman and to me whether the child is biological or adopted doesn't matter one bit. I chose artificial insemination as my first choice, not because I desired a biological child, but because it seemed like the quickest, easiest, and cheapest way to become a mother. After 6 failed insemination attempts, I have switched my focus to adoption. My doctor says I'm not infertile, and given time I can conceive (the odds of conceiving through donar insemination are MUCH less per cycle than intercourse), but I got tired of playing that monthly game. I am now trying to adopt through fostercare. But adoption is tough! Even tougher for a single person. Domestic and international adoption is so expensive. Plus, a single person has way less chance of being selected by a perspective birth mom. Fostercare isn't expensive, but the potential for heartbreak through reunification is high and there are more challenges involved in parenting an abused/neglected/drug-exposed child. Even through fostercare, I've been told to expect a long wait because I am single and desire a young child. I'm considering trying artificial insemination again while I wait for placement and just see which way gets me a child first. So I wonder, how many families, both single and married, don't choose adoption first simply because it is so difficult and expensive? I guess I don't see anyway around it being difficult, but I do question why the fees for domestic adoption have to be so high.

I guess maybe this is part of my question, why wait for one of your children to do it (adopt) when you are Quiverfull? Wouldn't standing in the middle of an orphanage with children waiting for families sort of be like God asking you to add more to your family? I could see if you weren' financially able, or didn't want more kids, but they have more kids every other year. After hearing that possbily Gothards teaching were anti-adoption (which they may not be), I was just trying to find out if it was part of their religion that they weren't allowed to.

I don't think it's that easy. Adoption is not for everyone. Years ago I knew a little girl who was taken into foster care and my dh and I expressed interest in taking her and her sister in. This was before we even considered having kids (bio or adopted), we were just not at that point yet. We cared for this child and wanted to make sure she was safe. As it turns out, she was already placed by the time we enquired. During our enquiry process, a guy who worked with me told me that once I had my "own" kids I would understand that I could NEVER love an adopted child like a bio child. After my son was born, my neighbor told me the same thing when I mentioned that we wanted to adopt. She said she could never love another child (her example was my son) like she loved her son and she was sure I felt the same. They were both wrong about me, but I'm sure that adoption won't be the right thing for them and for many other people.

I've heard this too, but never from someone who actually adopted. :arrow:

It could be, if they follow Bill Gothard. According to Bill Gothard's idea, people inherit sin from their parents. This is 'proven' by a certain passage in the Bible. And another link, this one at Recovering Grace, and anti-Gothard web site....And now I wish I could find the blog entry.... I was on either "No Longer Quivering" or "Homeschoolers Anonymous" and read an entry by some young person about this idea of how adoption was bad. Their family used to volunteer at orphanages often, to sing hymns and read the Bible to the kids, but NEVER to adopt, because of this inherited sin idea. (Though supposedly you can do a 'ritual' to cleanse the kids of their inherited sin, but I'm not sure what this ritual entails. As for parents not caring for their adopted kids like they do their bio-kids, google Hana Grace Williams, (and possibly Immanuel Williams), Lydia Schatz, and Sean Paddock. These families had other kids, yet only the adopted ones ended up dead. Is this because there was some 'connection' between the bio-kids and their parents that didn't exist with the adopted kids? Also, google "adopted child killed by parent" if you dare. You'll find way too many hits. (Though sometimes I wonder if this might be because the adopting parents have 'ideas' of what adoption should be like, or expect the child to be grateful to be adopted. But adoptive children might have issues due to past child abuse. I also remember reading an study that concluded that foreign-born children sometimes suffer from a developmental delay, due to having to learn a new language/ culture on top of everything else. (I couldn't find it, due to my bad google skills.) I wonder why the parents didn't just invest in good tutors and therapists for their kids.) Also, an article on how some of these foreign adoptees end up homeless and abandoned.... I'll admit that I can't afford to adopt. I've often thought that if I get a better paying position, I'll go to Cathedral of Hope, and see if I can adopt one of those gay kids that has been thrown out by their family.