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i have started looking for my birth mother the day i turned 18. im almost 20 now, and still havent heard anything. maybe i need to be a little more patient, but its kind of hard to be when my whole life ive wanted to meet her. ive heard alot of bad things about edna gladney. i dont know if what people said about it is true, but its a bit discouraging when im trying to find her. in an article i read in USA Today, it was said that in Texas each month 8,500 adoptees/birth parents have registered in the post adoption registration, and only one or two matches are made each month. how could that be? maybe if i did hire a personal investigator through gladney i would have better results in finding her. a part of me thinks she is waiting till im more "mature" and another part of me thinks she has started a new life and doesnt want to tell those people in her new life about what happened when she was younger. i think if gladney let me write the letter to her (but not giving me her address or any other identifying information) i think it would have more of a positive effect. i would tell her if she doesnt want a relationship, then its fine with me. i would love to have a relationship with her, but i also NEED my medical history. i have a few health problems now, and to have my medical hisotry it would make it much easier to diagnose my problems. i saw on this site where a birth mom found a birth index. thats great. that could help her out if she wishes to find me. but what about me? theres no idex for "women who gave birth". i looked for mine for the fun of it. on the day i was born, only 7 females were born. that gives her a list of names of who i could possibly be. now what if i didnt want to meet her and she figures out who i am? i thought adoption was supposed to protect the rights of the birth parents AND the adoptees. well, obviously not. i guess im just getting sick of waiting. im an impatient person, and maybe im acting selfish. i just want to meet her so bad, and i always have. I have registered in so many forums sites and have had no luck. I call gladney every so often to see if she has registered too, or read the letters my mom wrote her in the "archive" i guess you would call it. and still nothing. the reason i am writing this is not to make people feel sorry for me, I just want to know if any other adoptees feel the same way i do, or if i am just being pessimistic about the whole situation.
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Are you still following this thread? I wonder if I knew your birth mother, I was at Edna Gladney for 6 1/3 months and delivered a baby girl October 3, 1990. When were you born?
i have started looking for my birth mother the day i turned 18. im almost 20 now, and still havent heard anything. maybe i need to be a little more patient, but its kind of hard to be when my whole life ive wanted to meet her.ive heard alot of bad things about edna gladney. i dont know if what people said about it is true, but its a bit discouraging when im trying to find her. in an article i read in USA Today, it was said that in Texas each month 8,500 adoptees/birth parents have registered in the post adoption registration, and only one or two matches are made each month. how could that be?maybe if i did hire a personal investigator through gladney i would have better results in finding her. a part of me thinks she is waiting till im more "mature" and another part of me thinks she has started a new life and doesnt want to tell those people in her new life about what happened when she was younger. i think if gladney let me write the letter to her (but not giving me her address or any other identifying information) i think it would have more of a positive effect. i would tell her if she doesnt want a relationship, then its fine with me. i would love to have a relationship with her, but i also NEED my medical history. i have a few health problems now, and to have my medical hisotry it would make it much easier to diagnose my problems.i saw on this site where a birth mom found a birth index. thats great. that could help her out if she wishes to find me. but what about me? theres no idex for "women who gave birth". i looked for mine for the fun of it. on the day i was born, only 7 females were born. that gives her a list of names of who i could possibly be. now what if i didnt want to meet her and she figures out who i am? i thought adoption was supposed to protect the rights of the birth parents AND the adoptees. well, obviously not.i guess im just getting sick of waiting. im an impatient person, and maybe im acting selfish. i just want to meet her so bad, and i always have. I have registered in so many forums sites and have had no luck. I call gladney every so often to see if she has registered too, or read the letters my mom wrote her in the "archive" i guess you would call it. and still nothing. the reason i am writing this is not to make people feel sorry for me, I just want to know if any other adoptees feel the same way i do, or if i am just being pessimistic about the whole situation.