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My fd is 6 1/2 years old. We have had her for 6 months. She has had 2 therapist. The first therapist did the traditional talk therapy only. I was not part of the therapy. NOW.... after serveral issues have surfaces, I have been told she may have attachment issues that are manifesting into food issues: stealing food, lying, gorging, being sneaky about food, etc. Is this attachment disorder???? or part of RAD?
Also, my current counselor has my fd doing a reward/sticker chart. I recently read somewhere that this is ineffective for such a child. Do I get another counselor???? What do I look for in a counselor?? WHAT THERAPY would work best if talk therapy is ineffective and this is the kind of therapy my fd has been given the past 2 years!
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My fd is 6 1/2 years old. We have had her for 6 months. She has had 2 therapist. The first therapist did the traditional talk therapy only. I was not part of the therapy. NOW.... after serveral issues have surfaces, I have been told she may have attachment issues that are manifesting into food issues: stealing food, lying, gorging, being sneaky about food, etc. Is this attachment disorder???? or part of RAD?
Also, my current counselor has my fd doing a reward/sticker chart. I recently read somewhere that this is ineffective for such a child. Do I get another counselor???? What do I look for in a counselor?? WHAT THERAPY would work best if talk therapy is ineffective and this is the kind of therapy my fd has been given the past 2 years!
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Well, I can't give you an answer to that, but I do sympathize. I have never been a fan of talk therapy for children until they reach the teen years. In fact, I have found that it has been a negative thing for my foster kids. It was sort of like training for them to learn how to manipulate the system. They became pros at telling the counselor what she wanted to hear and triangulating her with us to get what they wanted.
One night just before christmas the counselor called and said that A (11 yrs old) was in her office sobbing for the past hour and she was having him admitted to the hospital for depression. Long story short, I talked her out of hospitalizing him over christmas :mad: and when she showed up with him to the house we had a 10 minute conversation about how he was upset about tv time, bedtime and his responsibility to take care of his dog. I refused to budge on my rules and he suddenly cheered up and went to bed. The counselor sat speechless on my couch :confused:
Anywho, if you live anywhere near a university you may see if they have any programs in their child dev dept or psyc dept.
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Did she come to you from her bio-home or another foster home? Food issues lasted 6-8 months here, and occasionally still rear up. She came to me from 4 yrs in foster care. (so it can be a part of the neglect thats also connected to RAD but can also be an adjustment behavior because shes trying to feel that her primary needs are met)
[url=http://www.attachment.org/pages_find_therapist.php]Find A Therapist In Your Area | Nancy Thomas Parenting | Attachment.org[/url]
Also I found a great therapist by asking in my home states forum andd someone refered me to our first therapist who we adore.
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Are you attached to her? Attachment is a two way street. Its doubtful you could long maintain a bond with her if she has none for you.
If those issues are only a problem when it comes to food then I wouldn't jump straight to RAD. But no RAD also doesn't mean the attachment will happen without intervention.
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