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We were chosen yesterday by a bmom and given alot of info on her, her family history etc.We came up with a few questions to ask our agency today that we weren't told yesterday[LIST][*]why is she chosing adoption[*]Is the birth father on board with the adoption?[*]has the bmom been HIV tested[*]Was the baby measuring on-schedule at the ultrasound[*]have they received any test results from the hospital regarding bmom or the baby[/LIST]I'm just wondering, what questions did you ask your agency about a potential match? Is there anything I'm not thinking of?Thanks!
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Some questions we will now ask after our third failed match (focused heavily on how the agency works with birthparents):
1) Does she have other children and if so, has the social worker explored with her how she will tell the children (even if they are young) about the adoption (e.g. how to answer the question "What happened to your tummy mommy?). I would also ask about what she is planning to tell family members/friends, again to ensure that the agency has explored this with her and helped her think through issues that might come up.
2) How much has she been counseled by the agency? Have they met with her just one time or have they been working with her for some time to help her clarify her adoption plan?
3) What contact will the agency have with her and with you until the baby is delivered? What is the goal of that contact?
4) Are you interested in knowing what her thoughts are about openness?
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