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Just needing to reach out for a bit of support. I was waiting to hear whether a tentative match was going to be definite only to find out that the emom has changed her mind and decided to parent. I've had a couple of situations that were hopeful but not definite, and I thought I was ready to handle it (again) if it didn't work out. Now I'm sitting at work wanting to cry. I know I have every right to my feelings, but I almost feel guilty because how can I be upset with someone for wanting to love and raise her child? And I'm not upset with her, I'm just upset. I know everything everyone could tell me about my feelings being normal and okay, and the need to grieve, and anything else you could think of. I'm not looking for advice, just support from people who can understand the feelings.
ruth74
Just needing to reach out for a bit of support. I was waiting to hear whether a tentative match was going to be definite only to find out that the emom has changed her mind and decided to parent. I've had a couple of situations that were hopeful but not definite, and I thought I was ready to handle it (again) if it didn't work out. Now I'm sitting at work wanting to cry. I know I have every right to my feelings, but I almost feel guilty because how can I be upset with someone for wanting to love and raise her child? And I'm not upset with her, I'm just upset. I know everything everyone could tell me about my feelings being normal and okay, and the need to grieve, and anything else you could think of. I'm not looking for advice, just support from people who can understand the feelings.
Ruth, I am very sorry that you are having a hard time. I don't know if this helps, but I went to a funeral once, for unborn twins, and the pastor said that the family was mourning the potential hopes and dreams that they had to set aside now. I think that it is natural that you are mourning the loss of what could have been and hope that you can find some comfort at this time. Best of luck on your path.
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Going through this process takes so much courage! You have to open your heart to every hopeful situation, knowing there is the potential there for it to break. My thoughts are with you. . .