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I will answer my own question to start. :)
I feel like I got quite a bit of information and training on what the child would go through, what feelings they would be having, what behaviors to expect... but I was completely unprepared for how I would feel. If I could go back and talk to myself, preadoption, I would tell myself to be prepared for heartbreak. For more pain, fear, anger, uncertainty, and sorrow than I had ever felt before. I would have told myself that there would be days I thought I was the crazy one, days I was certain I had lost it completely.
AND, I would have told myself to never take parenting advice from friends with biokids. I did that, in moments of weakness and craziness when I was questioning everything I thought I knew, and it set us both back. I would tell myself to only lean on parents who had parented traumatized kids.