What do you wish you knew back then?

We thought we were prepared. We believed the cw's and other professionals knew what they were talking about, and that they would be honest and transparent with us.We thought we knew what we could handle.We thought that grief had an end point, and that emotional trauma would, too.We thought we were done adding to the family. Twice. (...and we're on our third time of being done, but I think this time we really are.)Now we know that all of the above are only parts of the whole, and that it all changes just when you think you it won't.