My failure as a foster mom

I'm sorry you're going though this. I don't have any advice either. Abuse towards animals is also on our list of no's. I've had my cat since before I was married and before I had kids. So I totally understand how you feel. I would be devastated.FWIW, not with foster kids, but with my bio kids, my DS had a birthday that wasn't one year. He was awful and mean and so we didn't have cake, he had to wait until the next day to open his presents, etc. I just couldn't spend the whole day being "all about you" when he had been so bad. I don't know that it's a bad thing. She did something horrible and hurtful. There should be consequences and they should be big, IMO.My last thing I want to ask is if she's in therapy. If she's not, I hope 1st thing Monday you will start looking.((((hugs))))