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Hey! Loved what you shared from a AP's perspective! I just watched the documentary yesterday and i think what the younger brother (Ashok) said was very important to understanding this whole situation: He said that his AP never learned or tried to know more about his native past and culture. To him, it is very important because no matter how "white" he grew up to be, being native is still a very important part to his identity. Curtis on the other hand, understood that he was in between the two cultures: he never saw himself as fully "white" nor fully "native". Curtis acknowledged that both his AP and bio parents loves him, and i think Ashok knows it too - it's just that he feel like his AP don't love him for ALL that he is (including his native blood). He grew up in a home where talking about the racism in school and getting bullied to his adoptive parents made him feel sad and even more alone because his white parents couldn't understand and all his dad ever said was "you're overreacting". So individualizing a very social problem, and making it sound like he had to change really screwed him up. Until he reconnected with his native roots. Same for Curtis: it helped him so much to learn that his mother was drunk and lost because HER parents were like that and that's all she knew and learned from them, because of residential schools, because of all the incest and sexual/physical abuse going on in their childhood... As much as Curtis might blame his bio mom for her life choices, we cannot overlook the incredible history that contributed to how these people are today. Ashok also said at some point that he was struggling to find himself and took it out on his AP parents sometimes. In the healing circle, he admitted to have said things he didn't mean and regret saying. The truth still remains that he feels complete when connecting with his native side, and that is not something we can hate him for. I agree that showing gratitude to his AP and keeping contact would be nice. But having experienced something similar to his juvenile detention experience (being thrown in a place where they forcefully try to change you - when all you needed was to feel accepted for who you are), I can say that the DEEP feeling of abandonment i felt is something i still haven't forgiven my parents for.
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Some people have a "need" to be with their bio family... Also, there are bio kids who don't talk to bio parents. I think it stands out more in adoption... but people need to realize that adoption is based on loss.
I'm watching this documentary right now on demand. Its about these two Native American boys (now adults) who were adopted from foster in Canada to an American (CC) family in Redding PA. They were adopted as young boys so they remembered being with the bmom and now one of the boys is making a film about being between both families.
I thing that bothers me is the younger brother has basically at 18 yrs old left his adoptive family and went back to Canada to bio family and he hasn't talked to his AP's in 8 years. His issues are growing up without his NA identity and racism he dealt with being NA in a all CC environment. Actually both boys are living in Canada now. The older brother still has a relationship with his AP's.
As an AP I would take it as a slap in the face if my kid just left and wouldnt talking to me for 8 yrs. Its like these boys bio mom was an alcoholic who had her kids taken away because she was neglecting them. She said herself she would be drunk for 6 weeks straight and have no idea what day or month it is. Also leaving these babies at home by themselves while she's out partying and they have to change each diapers etc... So you have this family come in and give you a stable home and love and yet because they are CC you just leave?? Im wondering if this something that happens more often with older kids adoption from foster care?
Like I said earlier it really annoys me but a great watch anyways.
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Hmm.... that sounds pretty interesting. I'll have to add it to my blockbuster que. I've been noticing more & more films about adoption lately. It's been interesting to see another view.
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