Does anyone know how to relinquish a child you adopted from the Ukraine?

Respite may be something that will help, the state won't pay for it, but if she calls there may be a theraputic foster parent who is willing to do respite for her for a fee. It would be worth calling. I think it's very likely that this child is triangulating the parents, very common among rad kids, trying to turn one against the other. Usually the mother is the target of all the anger. It's very likely she is not really attached to the father but using him, pretending to be attached to him.