The Lost Child

I so agree with you, I like you couldn't do my (REAL) family tree that hurt, but no one understood that when i was at school, not even the teachers, they hadn't a clue, how much it hurt me when they asked "Do you you have the same nose or facial features as your parents?" I felt the odd one out all through my schooling,and sometimes do now, even though Im married with children of my own.Im still on the road to find out my history, but everyway I turn they want money for this and money for that, why does it have to cost, when we should be intitled to our records free, don't they know we have been through enough just being odopted.Sorry to rant, but Im doing the same trying to find that missing piece of jigsaw, thats been missing for a long time.pam

I understand. I feel like I'm lost with no identity. It isn't fair that we can't know where we come from. I didn't ask to be born.

I so agree with you, and understand where you are coming from, and there are many of us around feeling the same, you are so right we didnt ask to born, thats why i feel we should have access to all our paperwork FREE, as we want to know where we came from just like everyone else and to feel normal.I hope your journey will soon end and you will find what you are looking for and thats who you are and where you came from.Im here, if you ever want to contact me, take care xx

I had no past for 27 years. I completely understand! I used what I knew about my AP in school so no one would know. It was worse when I was pregnant with both of my sons. Not knowing any history was quite scary! I feel it should be madatory to give a full medical, ethnical, etc.. profile in every adoption to be made available to us. It is the least of our rights!! :thankyou:

I was in grade 10 and I had a teacher ask me in front of the whole class what it was like not growing up with my real family? She was a nasty woman at the best of times but that was no reason to do that because I couldn't do her stupid family tree. I responded with "How did your father feel about raising the milk mans daughter?" Needless to say I was escorted out of her class and spent lots of time in detention. To be fair the Vice Principal was very sad at the thought of her saying that to me in front of the class, he was a very nice man. To bad that teacher couldn't spend some time on the naughty step!

OMG. I dare some teacher to try something like that with either of my kids. I would take it to the superintendent if needed to get her suspended without pay as a punishment. There is no excuse for humiliating a child for any reason. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. And I already dread when this comes up with my kids. I keep thinking this must be a new thing because I don't remember ever doing anything similar and I would have had issues with it as I didn't grow up knowing my dad. It's a stupid assignment as well. There's better ways to teach genetics.