Trouble bonding with adoptive child

You are right. My DD has ADHD and RAD. And really...you won't like it, but you sort of need to go to her real emotional age, which is probably two. Let her hang on you. Let her feel your love. Look up Christine DeMoers on You Tube and watch some of her videos. If you are like me, you will see a mirror of your child. She has great videos. My new line about RAD is that RAD is contagious. If your child has it, then you will have it. For that reason, you don't feel a bond with her. But it's not too late. It does take a lot of work. Do find her a good therapist. One that specializes in attachment will be great. And school may have to take a slight backseat to attachment for a year or two. It's not you. It's the horrific disease!