Adoption regrets?

I wasn't going to reply but I guess I will. My husband and I made the decision that once we turn 40, we will no longer accept small children. We were raised by "older parents" and neither of us liked it. With that said, it's a personal decision that everyone needs to make for themselves. What's right for us, may not be right for you. You said above that age is not what's holding you back. I re-read your initial post and you stated, in it, that you are fostering now to "help out". You then went on to say how far this child has come in your home. So, you have helped out. Does that make sense? You shouldn't feel guilt about wanting some personal time with your spouse. Whatever decision you make, I'm sure you'll be happy!